Kyle, who is now 15 years old, used to tell all kinds of stories,
as little kids often do. However, Kyle's stories almost always
had to do with his life before birth.
speak of games, events and things that happened to him before
he was born. He was very clear about the fixing of the time
of each of these events. What was particularly unusual was
that he would always point out who was there with him at these
parties, games or events. And those people were always his
siblings (my other children).
he would tell us that "Adam wasn't there that time." Adam
is my oldest child and we concluded that he meant that whatever
he was describing happened after Adam had already been born.
he said, "Mom, do you know there was another kid there with
me [during whatever incident he was describing] but I can't
remember his name. I keep trying and trying, but I can't remember
it at all!" I had had an abortion when I was 21 years old.
Could this have been the baby/soul that never had a chance
to be born? Is this who he was talking about?
significant thing Kyle said happened one day when he was about
three and a half years old. He just came up to me very casually
and asked me, "Mommy, why are people afraid to die?" I told
him that most of us are afraid to die because we are sad to
leave our loved ones behind. He responded by saying, "Oh.
Well, I am not afraid to die because you just go back to that
place from before." I asked him, "You mean That Place that
you always talk about?" He said, "Yeah. It's really nice there.
God lives there." With that, he walked away, leaving me stunned.
friend attributes this to the fact that Kyle was born "in
the caul," with the amniotic sac still intact at his birth.
She says he retained memories that we all have at birth but
which the vast majority of us quickly lose. According to her
theory, Kyle and other people born "in the caul" retain these
memories far longer, often into the age when they are able
to verbalize them to others.